Sometimes a separation or divorce is the best choice when the relationship has fallen apart. Even when this is the best option it can still be very painful during the redrawing and regrouping periods prior to continuing on with your life.
At this point it is often useful to resolve the dynamics that were playing out in your life in the relationships such as what it was that attracted you to this person. To resolve this can be very healing and allow you to choose differently if you wish to go into relationship again.
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